Few people want to go through a divorce, but in some cases it happens and there’s not much you can do about it. Most lawyers will tell you that the best way to ease the stress is to understand what your rights are. A consultation with a top family lawyer who have experience in handling divorce is the best way to achieve this.
These days, divorce is not the painful procedure it once was. No one has to prove fault to get a divorce. All you need to do is leave your spouse for 12 months and then apply for a divorce citing there is no chance the marriage can be made to work and that the two people are not likely to get back together again. You can apply for a divorce online if you have the necessary computer skills. You also need to pay the fee online.
In some cases, it is better to consult with a lawyer who can put the application for the divorce in for you. He may even do it online, but you’ll need to pay him the fee plus his consultation fee. Still, it can be worth it to ease your stress, especially if you have no computer or don’t have the skills or an internet connection. It is also very helpful to talk to someone about your rights, especially if there are children or financial assets involved.
It’s important to understand that an application for a divorce does not settle the above questions; children and assets. If the children are minors, it is important to ensure they will be well looked after. This may already have happened if you’ve been living apart for 12 months. Traditionally, children lived with their mother, so long as she was a fit person to care for them. These days, this is not always the case.
In some cases, children have to go into foster care if the mother is on drugs, or if she has to work and cannot be there to care for small children. These days the courts will not grant a divorce unless they are sure any children under 18 have had proper care arrangements made for them.
If you are going through a divorce it is likely that you are feeling stressed. It’s important that you take some time out for yourself; even sitting in the park or by the beach can make you feel calmer and restore a sense of balance to your life. Talking with caring friends or a counsellor can also be helpful to ease the emotional stress.
Make sure you get enough sleep and eat well so your body has the rest and fuel it needs to handle the physical stress and keep you healthy so you can cope with your life.